The Importance Of Self-Advocacy: Owning Your Life & Taking Control

Throughout my mental illness journey, I have discovered the importance of self-advocacy. -

Whether it be a result of incapability, lack of willingness, fear of backlash, etc, it concerns me that the vast majority of those suffering from mental stability issues fail to communicate the specifications and/or accommodations needed for their success.

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During my battle with anxiety disorder, I know for certain that I could not be who and where I am today without the courage I have developed to advocate for myself. -

I have come to find that honesty, sincerity, and vulnerability, while initially nerve-racking, open far more doors of opportunity and compassion than one would believe. -

It is not selfish to ask for the aid of others; if something particular is key to your progression in your life, school, sports, career, etc, it is your duty to make such terms clear.

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What Is Self-Advocacy? & What Does It Look Like?

Self-advocacy can take numerous forms; at its core, self-advocacy acts as a means of clarification and support. Self-advocacy is not rude, nor is it an imposition or burden on those in which you confide in. Self-advocacy is a demonstration or self-awareness and growth. The more you learn to verbalize the assistance you need to perform to the best of your potential, the more you may realize that others share a common interest in your overall success. -

It is not outlandish or provocative to ask for help. It is your right to seek support and understand what those around you are capable of doing to best serve you in your time of need.

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How Can I Effectively & Confidently Self-Advocate?

When advocating for yourself, the most important aspect is simplicity. -

It might be so that whomever you are speaking with does not have a great deal of knowledge regarding your mental illness. Therefore, it becomes your responsibility to provide insight as to how they can best encourage and understand you. -

Common examples of self-advocacy include taking the initiative with bosses, teachers, mentors, supervisors, etc and briefing them on your condition. -

It is not necessary to provide the entirety of your story, nor must you answer any questions that do you not wish to. Offer the information that is both comfortable for you to disclose while also helpful in comprehending the challenges you face.

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I have come extremely far myself in how I speak with those around me about my anxiety. When I was first diagnosed, I told everyone only of my mild symptoms - at most; I never wanted to appear conceited or dramatic, thus holding my tongue each and every time I was asked “What can I do to help?”

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As I denied the offered guidance and aid, my mental wellness deteriorated. I became isolated and terrified. -

You do not need to have a medical degree or extensive training to know what environments and tactics provide relief from the struggles you face. Make any known triggers or stressors clear. Offer suggestions or past coping mechanisms that you have utilized. -

Astonishingly, I have found a sense of strength, pride, and humanity in disclosing my anxiety. More often than not, I am presented with the opportunity to educate the individual in which I am speaking with; it always fills me with passion to assist one that does not have the information or experience to better serve others struggling with mental illness or mental health issues.

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When disclosing, be sure to be truthful and real. Those around you will most likely find deep respect for you, as admitting limitations and areas of need is a beautifully courageous and mature quality.

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How Do I Support An Individual’s Advocations & Accommodations?

Most unfortunately, there is no “one size fits all” approach to mental illness. There are no instruction manuals for the human brain and its intricate procedures.

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If you are hoping to further your comprehension of mental wellness, there are countless resources. Research. Ask questions. Make it a habit to communicate with those whom you are trying to better assist. -

The worst thing an individual with a mental illness can hear is “you’re crazy.”

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The worst thing an individual with anxiety can hear is “just calm down.”

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The worst thing an individual with depression can hear is “I don’t understand how you are unhappy; you have nothing to feel depressed about.”

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Consider educating yourself in harmful stereotypes or often misunderstood phrases or references.

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There are numerous approaches and comforting communication strategies at your disposal. Always be gracious, cautious, and willing to accept your own misconduct. -

With mental illness, symptoms can strike, peek, or even fade at any moment. Much like with illnesses such as cancer or diabetes, mental illnesses are always present in the individual. Although one may display behaviors attributed to that of an average or recovered individual, never assume that the mental illness has been healed or eradicated.

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In times much like these, human kindness is vital.

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It goes without saying that the importance of compassion and empathy are immeasurable.

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You - despite your notions otherwise - have extreme power as a single member of the human race. -

Use your power to uplift and empower those around you. For this journey is not one to be had alone. -

In light & peace,

Sofia F. -

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If at last a light cannot be found to lead you on your way, you must choose to be one for yourself and others. -